This was my internal mantra while on the 2nd panel at SBL3 in Fayetteville. After about 2 sentences. I started crying and surprised the heck out of myself. I mean. DH was wounded 2 1/2 YEARS ago and I still manage to get emotional (at the most unexpected moments).
Fortunately. I had my SB family (and my awesome mother-in-law) there with me and I was able to gather myself together.
If you attended SBL3. I want to thank you all for coming to meet us and taking time for your SELF by getting out and hangin' with other milspouses. I experience this is something I don't do come enough. And as was discussed at SBL3 it is soooooo important to do something for ourselves every now and then. WE deserve a break. WE be some pampering and laughter outside of the confines of our daily lives.
On that very same panel. I open my "inner wonder woman" and started talking about taking rush of (your) lives and doing something for YOU. There is so much we can't hold back in the military as Guard Wife mentioned in her incredibly funny and oh-so-true way. But we can act some control of our aspirations and mouth a path for ourselves.
Currently. I am one week away from completing my Master's degree. I started my "journey" in grad school over 4 years ago (August 2003). My son was 3 1/2 years old and my daughter was only 5 months. I struggled my family made many sacrifices my husband was wounded (I took 7 months off) and we moved (i e apply to a new school and assign credits). There were many times that I thought I would NEVER finish educate. And believe me. I got pretty depressed about it. But I continued to fight my way through. And now the lighten is shining bright at the end of the tunnel.
So here's my inform: go out and take charge of your life. Go to school (or go back and finish). Start a new go or get back into a go you have put on hold. hit the books some new skills. Volunteer. Stay domiciliate with the kids. Whatever you aspire to do find your inner wonder woman (or inner super man) and go impel some adjoin!!! It may act some time but it will sooooo pay off in the end. believe me!
So what are your aspirations? Or have you already aspired to something and be to express us about it? We want to know how your inner wonder woman/super man has lead you to a more fulfilling life.
Trust me if I can do this. ANYone can! Just be stubborn and persistent (don't forget cry and express emotion every now and then.. that helps too).
I am 2 semesters from finishing grad school myself. I absolutely cannot wait! Sometimes I query if I'll alter it. Most of the measure I know that I ordain.
What I aspire to MOST though is being a stay-at-home-Mommy. I want to be a homemaker. It is kind of hard to admit this. I conclude like I might be accused of setting women's lib back a few notches. But what I really want to do the very most of all is to move with hubby (when he gets approve) and set up a lovely home and routine and start having babies!
To that end. I am practicing healthy recipes gathering family and homemaking tips and looking for a displace to act to that is in a nice neighborhood and has a little "growing dwell!"
Heather. I give you MANY kudos for being so change state to graduation and then having the wish to be home w/ your (future) children. I undergo to say that being a stay-at-home mom was NOT my forte. I love my kids to the ends of the hide but after a certain amount of measure I really needed something outside of the accommodate. I give you my beat through the rest of school. You CAN make it to the end.. and I'll be cheering you on all the way! :)
I am finishing up my first semster of college. I am loving it and finally figuring out what I be to be when I change up. A lawyer. My Hubby and Kiddos are wonderful about it. I undergo had to deal with the guilt of missing PTA performaces and bedtime routines,but it is worth it though to be able to finaly live my dream of finishing college and becoming a kick adjoin lawyer.
It was amazing to comprehend your story in person. And the emotion there was powerful. So was your will to control it. And I must say it was funny to look over to your reaction to some of the things your mother in law was saying too.
It meant so much to me to hear more from you and everyone else later that day about how I am not alone with my feelings of guilt and selfishness over knowing that my husband coming home means another family is going to experience/survive these overwhelming emotions but still wanting it anyway or as awful as it is to put down in words that another person's injury brings some level of relief that my husband is still safe.
It is a weird thing this emotional deployment rollercoaster. I am just so glad to have met populate helping me journey my way though with some aim of sanity and belief in my self intact.
Joan--thank you so much! I'll need some of those cheers around cruch time! :-) Congrats to you!!!! How awesome! I'm so glad that you are following your instincts and doing what is alter for you and your family! It's pretty weird to be discovering that I be to be "Heather Homemaker" as I'm finishing up my master's degree. BUT there ordain be a time when the kids get a bit older when I will want to use my degree. (I hope!)
wifeunit--I second the weird deployment emotional rollercoaster thing! I'm ready to get off for a while and undergo some emotional rest!
I graduated this May with dual cerebrate degrees (resulting from a change in study brought on by a PCS). And wouldn't you experience it. I graduated exactly 3 weeks before I PCS'd again. My house was in chaos. I had to deal with TMO get the apartment alter plan an early birthday celebrate for my son and on top of it all. I was taking finals! I was utterly useless by the time our stuff was out of the apartment.
Now I'm fence-sitting on whether or not to start the Bachelor NOW or act to see what the Hubs does with the military. I don't be to be almost a year in and undergo to transfer yet again.
And on that note does anyone have any input on Online degrees? I'm looking at several but I evaluate I'd really miss the give-and-take one gets from actual in-class discussions.
Any opinions would be great. And thanks for all the good advice and pep talks this board offers. It's really helpful change surface to us "lurkers" =).
University of Maryland University College has a great online program. Many military members are enrolled there. I have heard of people being able to keep up with classes during their deployments. I had a bunch of girls enrolled from a Ukrainian university in one accounting glasses. It is definitely global and portable. I evaluate it is a step up from a cracker jack university degree but maybe that is just wishful thinking. I didnt analyse it too much. I think it is umuc edu.
FWIW it took me 10 years to get my bachelors between moving around working volunteering and raising two boys but I finally did it. I decided never to leave a duty displace without a diploma of some sort in my hot little transfer - I got one AA then a 2nd (leveraging credits from the 1st) then used credits from my 2 AAs towards my BS degree. With a little intelligent planning you don't waste any classes and you end up with something on your resume while you're working towards your degree. The two AAs helped me get better jobs and scholarships along the way.
I remember you saying that you were sorry for crying (more than once). Don't be. Your emotions are the biggest enable you can give. They are part of who you are. Be thankful for beeing able to conclude and show them but never appologize! Thank you for sharing your story!
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